1. Fail fast and move on
Last year I was meant to leave to go work on a cruise for 6 months in the states. Due to the Fees strike, our exam timetable moved and I was no longer able to go. I was so disappointed and heartbroken. I had left my job, didn’t apply for honors because I was solely betting on the fact that I was leaving. I had no future prospects whatsoever. Thankfully I was able to get a job within in a week but mentally I had taken a knock. Looking back at the situation I know see that I stayed too long at that pity party. Even though I had a job and life was moving on, I was still in the past thinking of what could have been. Only once I was able to let go and move on did a lot of things start to fall into place. Maybe I wasn’t meant to leave, maybe I have work I need to right here in South Africa or maybe it just wasn’t meant to be.
2. Stop loving trash men
Girl! I’ve been single for the whole year and it’s literally the best decision I made for myself. Last year I was in love with a person who had no plans of loving me. So I gave more and more and more so he could see how awesome I was but he just took and took. Soon I was empty, depleted and I just needed him to be there for me just once and he wasn’t so I left and never looked back. Girl, best decision I ever made! I don’t see myself being in a relationship anytime soon because I’m so comfortable with myself and I don’t think I’m ready to share my space again.
3. Stop loving trash friends.
After I left the trash man I just spoke about, I started to look at my friendships and which of these I was just giving and receiving nothing in return. So I stopped being the one to always make plans, being the one to bring people together, being the one to always take of the bill, being the one to make sure everyone was happy and comfortable and guess what happened? I didn’t receive a single invite to any get together nor was I checked on. These people only called me when they needed something and this time I said no. It became very clear that I was being used by people so I left those friendships too. Bye boo!
4. Read your Bible.
I was never raised in a home that reads the bible regularly or attended church that much. At the beginning of this year I made a decision to draw close God. God had been speaking to me and directing me to come home for a very long time. I went on a fast earlier this year that changed my life! It was during this time that I started reading my bible and let me tell you that bible has got wisdom like no other! That wisdom changed and renewed me in so many ways and I’m forever grateful.
5. Dream, work on and have faith that everything will work out.
This year I’ve been dreaming bigger dreams and believing for amazing things. But as the bible says “Faith without works is dead” and I believe that with all my being. You have to work towards everything you’re believing for. Start somewhere and work. Its not enough to just dream or believe, you have to put in the work.
I’m so excited for 22!
With love, Nollie