The lessons that 2014 taught me that I’ll never forget.


1. Its okay not to be okay.

I’ve always been the strong friend and this year I had to admit I wasn’t okay and I had to accept help. It was difficult as I hate talking about my problems to other people but it showed a different side to me that many people didn’t know and somehow I became more real to them because I showed emotion. My friendships became a whole lot more meaningful and more open. Showing weakness I’ve learned is actually a sign of strength.

2. Nothing lasts forever.

Its so important to live in every moment and feel that moment. It could be the happiest time in your life and it unfortunately won’t last forever or it could be the worst time of your life and thankfully that to doesn’t last forever. But everything that you are going through and feeling in that moment is exactly how it is supposed to be. Yes it could be better but it could also be a whole lot worse.

3.  Look for the best in people.

We have become used to looking for flaws in people that we fail to see the good. Dimming someone else’s light does not make yours any brighter. The uniqueness that people possess is what makes life interesting! The imperfections are best parts of people. It’s the space in which people are most honest about themselves. I’ve made it protocol for myself to see the best in people. As soon as someone walks into the room instead of looking for a flaw that could make me feel better about myself, I look for something that person has that I don’t and what I could do to better myself to possess that virtue.

4. Trust God’s timing.

Timing is everything! I’m a control freak and plan things way in advance and try make sure I know the outcome but if what I have planned isn’t in God’s plan for me, its not going to happen. I really do believe that all our unanswered prayers for things have protected from things that were not meant for us. And yes it sucks because sometimes I feel that I am deserving and that I am ready and capable but that just isn’t in God’s plan for me. Every opportunity sent to me I make the most in the moment.

5. Gratitude will change your life.

It’s so important to be thankful for what you have in that moment. Yes, you could always have more but you could always have less! Someone out there is praying for what you have. Gratitude changed my attittude towards life. When I became grateful suddenly everything was enough and it was special. It made me content with what I had and I stopped wishing for me rather I started appreciating all the little things I’d never thought twice about. I treated my friends and family with more compassion and understanding. I listened more and its crazy the things you learn about people when you really listened and not just wait your turn to talk.

6. Happiness is a personal thing.

“If you are lonely when you are alone, you are in bad company.” – Jean-Paul Satre

You have to be happy with yourself and when you are by youself. Its great to be happy when you are with with people but you have to complete yourself! I think its an awful responsibilty to give someone for them to be in charge of your happiness. Other people should contribute to your happiness not create it. The routes that other people take in life to be happy may be different to mine but that doesn’t mean they are on the wrong route. I choose to be in charge of my happiness. My most happiest moments have been when I’ve been by myself doing something that I love.

7. Love is everything.

I’ve loved and I’ve lost but the love remains. I will continue to love dispite hurt or heartbreak because I am a better person when I love. My love is crazy, irrational and doesn’t make any sense at times but its my kind of love. My love heals people, my love is giving, my love is caring and my love is a work in progress. My love has been defeated, taken advantage of, disrespected and left by those who couldn’t understand but still my love remains.

8. Life is always better when you are laughing.

Stop being so serious! Just laugh at yourself.


The highlights of my year have definately been the birth of my niece and the friendships in my life. My niece gives me so joy and constantly reminds of how easy life is. She slows me down and brings me back to earth. Her smile and laughter fuel my soul! She is one of the most amazing people I have met.

I cannot imagine life without my best friend Irene (I’m tearing up just thinking about it). I’ve never met someone so amazing. I still don’t know what I did so right with God to deserve her. Our 13th year of friendship has definately been our best.

Thuli and Seo who contribute so much happiness and laughter in my life! I thought I knew what laughing was but these two take laughter to a new level. Thanks for the laughing abs girls 🙂

Tebogo who calms me yet allows me to be crazy. She’s so accepting and embraces me in a way I never thought possible. The way in which we met will always make me believe in fate.

Thulani and his brutally honest advice. I’ve dodged so many bullets and mistakes because of him. Even though it hurts to hear the truth, I appreciate that he cares enough not to lie to me.

Yvonne my crazy other half! I still can’t believe we haven’t been arrested. You have taught me that my level of crazy is nothing compared to yours and that I am actually quite normal.

In the year 2015 I pray for more laughter, peace and love. Life is beautiful and life is fun! I’ve had so much fun this year and made so many beautiful memories. Letting of expectations of how things should be and just living in the moment. I’m grateful for all the things I’ve had the opportunity to experience and for all the amazing people I’ve met. Life is such a rollercoaster but its the greatest ride we’ll ever go on.

With love, Nollie.



One thought on “The lessons that 2014 taught me that I’ll never forget.

  1. 6. Happiness is a personal thing.

    “If you are lonely when you are alone, you are in bad company.”

    I’ve always loved my own company. Some people don’t get it and assume I must be bored. Nope, I don’t need people to make me happy. There are times I want to be around others and there are times I’ll happily sit alone.

    Great post.

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